Ever wondered what actually happens when you book your first phone sex call? In this episode of The Weekly Hot Spot podcast, Mistress Olivia and Mistress Erika go over everything you need to know about taking that leap from podcast listener to caller. Whether you’re curious about the difference between public chat and private sessions, nervous about making that first phone sex call, or simply unsure of what to expect when you dial in, this conversation covers it all. We have suggestions for handling your first-time jitters, privacy tips, and even Dispatcher etiquette. When you crave personal attention, this will help you have the courage to book a private session with us. Listen to the podcast episode: From Listener to Caller: Your first private audio or text session, demystified.
Ms Olivia: “Welcome to The Weekly Hot Spot, your guide to non-traditional relationship structures and female authority dynamics. I’m Mistress Olivia alongside my friend Mistress Erika. And we always tell you, we love hearing from you. And we do. We are getting close to so many of you during our private sessions.
Erika, have you heard that some listeners are intimidated, shy, or maybe nervous about actually doing a session with us?”
Ms Erika: “Absolutely. Come on, guys. Don’t be such a pussy. Come play with the pussies.”
Ms Olivia: “Hahaha, that’s great. In all seriousness though, if you’re thinking about taking the leap from listening to the show to booking a personalized one-on-one session, this episode is for you. All the ins and outs, pun intended, of private audio sessions with your favorite Femdoms.”
Ms Erika: “We’ll also go over some questions and concerns that we’ve heard from people, including what happens when you first connect with us, maybe some other common questions you may have. And yes, even things about handling those nerves. Right, Olivia?”
Difference between out of session chat and private sessions
Ms Olivia: “Yep. Let’s begin with the difference between public community chat and private sessions. When we say contact us, we do mean that. But now, Erika, you’re going to have to explain this because you say it so much more clearly and you’re very nice about it.”
Ms Erika: “Well, that’s a good point there is a bit of confusion. What do we mean when we say contact us? When you engage with us out in the wild, meaning emails or Discord or other platforms, we really keep things PG-13, maybe R-rated regarding references. So you can say things like, yeah, I’m into cum eating or I’ve always wanted to wear panties, whatever that is. You’re not going to go into a deep description of what happens when you eat cum or wear panties. That’s more X-rated, right? So there is a line.
You’re free to introduce yourself and provide a comment about the podcast or something you heard, or even ask a question. We are not going to solve your life’s dilemmas in a casual email, Discord, or other platform exchange.”
We’re really not going to engage in adult sexual play with you just because you said hello. Just keep in mind that in private sessions, all those constraints come off and we can get as adult, detailed, and dirty as you like.”
Ms Olivia: “Yes, and I’m just going to be blunt. Those private sessions are paid. You might think that you pay for us to be explicit. But, that’s not the case. You’re actually paying for our time.”
Ms Erika: “Perfectly said, yes. And our experience and talents.”
Ms Olivia: “Yes, and the safety and security of going through a company like LDW.
Ms Olivia’s first professional phone sex call
Ms Olivia: “So you decide that you want a private session, but you’ve never called a company like ours. Here’s the thing. It can be daunting. My first phone sex call that I answered, I was in lingerie, stockings, high heels. I got so nervous when the phone rang. I jumped up, twisted my foot, smashed my leg against the desk, ripped my stocking, knocked the phone off of the desk, and I heard this voice from the floor…hello. And I grab the phone and I’m like, hi. This is my first call and I’m so nervous!” He was very nice. Good thing, I was a wreck!
Ms Erika: “Oh, poor thing.”
Ms Olivia: “That was my very first professional phone sex call. So we get it that it’s normal to be nervous before your first phone sex call. So what do people do? You’ve been a dispatcher for a bit.”
Ms Erika: “Yes, I was many years ago.”
Ms Olivia: “We’re both here during the day. Eastern time zone, U.S. Here’s the main number: 1-800-601-6975. Now, when somebody dials that number, Erika, put on your dispatcher hat.”
What happens when you call Dispatch
Ms Erika: “Okay.”
Ms Olivia: “Oh, my God, you look so cute in that hat.”
Ms Erika: “I know. It’s so cute, right?”
Ms Olivia: “It really emphasizes your boobs. LOL. Okay, so back to what happens when people call?”
Ms Erika: “Well, what happens is that you get an automated greeting. It’ll say something like, thank you for calling our chat line. And it will give you instructions. You can sit there and listen to the instructions, or you can just hit the number 1 one and be connected right to the dispatcher.
The dispatchers are very professional and friendly. They will not get into your dirty business. They will be polite, professional, and ask you what you need.
They’ll take your credit card information, ask if you want a time limit on your call or if you want to leave it open. Your privacy and security is paramount with us. We never know anything you tell the dispatcher unless you say, please tell them this. And then when it’s personal information, they might pass that along. But if you want to say, hi, I want to call Miss Erika for some panty play, that would be perfectly fine. And they’ll probably forward that to me.”
Ms Olivia: “Don’t get pornographic with the Dispatcher. That’s not okay. Here’s an example that isn’t okay: “I want to call Ms Erika and have her tell me about the smoking hot, thick, dripping, oozing cock that she’s going to make me suck.”
Ms Erika: “Good contrast.”
Ms Olivia: “Here’s what happens, folks. If you do that, if you cross the boundary of using the dispatcher to do what we do, your number will get blocked by the company and you’re not going to be able to call.”
Ms Erika: “Now, to be fair, they will let you know you’ve gone a step too far. Please save that for your mistress. And we usually give everybody a chance or two because they’re not used to it, right? But if you persist in bad behavior there will be consequences.”
Ms Olivia: “Well, we have to give them multiple chances because they’re hard. So we know that when you’re rock hard, you’re stupid and not listening. That’s okay. We factor that in.”
Ms Erika: “Yes, absolutely. And real quick, if you call the dispatcher, she can walk you through everything you need to know. You can ask questions. What is an open call? What is a closed call? What happens if I want to do this or that? But we also have a click to call option. It’s on our blogs and most of the sites, you’ll see click to call her now. If we are available and not in another session, you’ll be able to fill out a website form with all that information and be sent directly to us without even talking to the dispatcher.”
Privacy, security and keeping your kink life safe
Ms Olivia: “Erika, you mentioned privacy. Let me just do a real quick note about privacy. What we recommend is that you set up a private email, not just for us, but for all of your kink, fetish, stuff like that. Set up an encrypted email. We like Proton, just to keep everything separate. So you’ve got all of your kink, porn stuff over here, and then your professional life and all of the naughty stuff over there.”
Ms Erika: “Mm-hmm.”
Ms Olivia: “So let’s talk about nerves. If you’re into feminization, you might actually be dressed exactly as I was. Please be careful of those high heels. Don’t fall over like I did. But frankly, it’s normal to feel anxious. What tips do you have for someone new, unsure, or maybe just really shy?”
Ms Erika: “Well, first of all, you’re going to make my day. You’re going to make my day when your nerves are getting the best of you and you hear me say, hi, this is Erika. And then your mouth goes dry. Your heart beats faster. Just say, hi, Mistress. This is Joe. And I’m so nervous to talk to you. Just telling me that is going to help your nerves to begin with. And then second of all, I’m just going to lean into that. We’re going to take very good care of you. And if you’re like many others, within a moment, you’ll be like, why was I so nervous? Now I’ve got a throbbing hot dick or clit.”
Ms Olivia: “Mm-hmm.”
There is no right way to do distance domination
Ms Erika: “So there’s no pressure to perform either. If your penis does not rise to the occasion the way you expect it to, it’s okay. It might be the nerves. And honestly, on that first call sometimes people will call for 10 or 15 minutes just to get to know us. Just to talk about the topic that they really want to dive into. And so it could be just to take the pressure off yourself.”
“Do a 10 or 15 minute call, introduce yourself, talk about your desires. If you want to continue, you can come right back and continue. And then we can get down to the nitty gritty, right?”
Open or closed call
Ms Olivia: “Exactly. Now you mentioned open or closed. So give an example of a cutoff call versus an open call. And folks, listen, no matter which one you choose, you’re only charged for the amount that you actually use, except for the 10 minute minimum. Like if you cum and hang up in four minutes, you’ll be charged for 10.”
Ms Erika: “Correct. And that’s exactly it. So when you call the dispatcher, she’ll probably use language that you don’t understand.
She’ll say: “Would you like an open call or a closed call?” An open call means she will authorize your credit card just like a restaurant does when it does your bill before you give the tip. They’ll authorize it for a certain amount. It could be for 15 or 30 minutes if it’s your first call. And if it’s an open call, you say, please leave it open. At that 30 minute mark or whatever you are authorized for, we’ll go ahead and add more time if you exceed that time. Now, a closed call means no matter what happens, at two minutes until the end, you’re going to hear a little ding, ding. And that’s a two minute alarm bell to tell us that we have two minutes to wrap up or the call’s going to be cut off.”
Ms Olivia: “And it will cut off. Here’s something that I recommend, especially with Erika or me, because we will often have another call waiting or a callback. If you do a cutoff call and that call ends, the callback automatically takes place. So you can’t immediately dial again and get us. So I recommend that people do an open call, but, and I know you’re really good about this also, just give us a heads up and say, hey, I’d really like to keep this call to 15 minutes, or I really don’t want to go over 20. And then at 18 minutes or so, I’ll say, Erika, we’re coming up on that 20 minute mark. And then you have the option of saying, now I really want to talk a little bit more. Okay. But we can also keep track of the time for you.”
Ms Erika: “Oh, absolutely. The most frustrating thing, especially for a new caller, is getting that question out and then boom, the call ends. That is an excellent tip, Olivia. Just let us know, saying, hey, look, I got about 15, 20 minutes today. Can you keep me on track? And then if something happens that you need those extra couple of minutes just to make a point or to hear our response, you have those couple of minutes.”
Get in touch before your session
Ms Olivia: “Yep, exactly. Now, one thing that really helps people get comfortable is getting in touch beforehand. And one of the reasons why we say contact us. It’ll get you maybe a little bit off that first nudge of nerves. So email us before a session, email or Discord DM.
On Discord, it’s:
- LDW Erika
- LDW Olivia
For email:
- Erika at EnchantrixEmpire.com
- Olivia at EnchantrixEmpire.com
You can ask questions about your fantasy or whatever you want to talk about. We answer emails and DMs.
But again, don’t get explicit if you’ve never done a session with us. You can say something like: Do you do strap-on fantasies? And can you incorporate that into a cuckold scene that I want to do? Then the lady you wrote will write back and say yes and yes and a couple of ideas and exchanges. It does not replace a session.”
Ms Erika: “Correct. We’re talking about the subject. We’re not leaning into the subject.
I know it’s challenging. Oh my God, I’m talking to a femdom. What should I say? I don’t want to mess up. She might spank me or maybe I want to be spanked. All these things are going through your head. You’re firing on all cylinders.
This is how you write a first email to us
Ms Erika: Just remember a couple simple steps:
- A simple hello
- Tell us the name you want to use
- A sentence or two about what’s on your mind.
For example, Hi, mistress. I love the podcast. I’m looking to chat about chastity.
Timing: tell us if you want to play right away
Ms Erika: And then most importantly, if it’s an email or DM on Discord, if you’re looking to have a session now or relatively soon, you should say that. So in the subject line, looking for a session, are you available today? I can’t tell you how many times that somebody new pops up and I’m just saying, hi, and how are you? And what are you into? And that’s really great. And then I get whisked away with a call because while I’m chatting with you on Discord, I’m on for open calls.”
Check to make sure we’re not in another distance domination session
Ms Erika: “If I’m in a session and you send me a Discord message or an email, I’m not answering you, darling. You’re going to have to wait until I’m done. When somebody is in session, they deserve and are expecting my full attention. I don’t split my attention. So I will get back to you when we’re done. But lead with if you want a session now. That way I can address it by saying, oh, okay, I’ll still give you a couple of minutes to discuss what you want to do in session if you like, but let me go busy so I don’t get snatched up on another call. Right?”
Ms Olivia: “Now, when Erika says a couple of minutes, that’s not five minutes. That’s not 10 minutes. That’s not 20 minutes. That’s not an hour and a half.”
Ms Erika: “Correct. No, it’s just to get the particulars out. I’m looking for chastity or let’s say cum eating. I’m looking for cum eating, but I’m really nervous. I have never done it before. Do you think you can get me to do it? And that takes a minute or two and we can chat and say, yes, yes, yes.
The most important thing is if you want to chat and engage right now and not just say hello, please let me know. It just happened yesterday. Somebody said hi to me. I happen to know who it was. And they usually only say hi when they want a session. So I just typed back, hi, how are you doing? Bad news. I just got pulled for a call. I’ll get back to you. And then he replied me next, please. And then when I was done with that call, I immediately went busy, messaged him back, said, “Here I am, baby, let’s go.”
Appointments with Mistress
Ms Olivia: “Perfect. We’re talking about being popular and being busy. I take appointments for people who are regular callers. I’ve tried to do that with new callers and I’ve gotten burned. And so I tend to not do it. Erika, do you take appointments from people who are new to LDW or new to you?”
Ms Erika: “Oh yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. The only thing that I usually try to do is as soon as I log on in the day, or right before I go to lunch or right after I come to lunch or at the end of the day. So let’s say I make an appointment with a new person for nine o’clock on a Wednesday and I show up but they ghost me. No harm, no foul. I’ve only wasted 10 minutes. I’ll log on for calls because I will only wait 10 minutes. If we make an appointment for 9 a.m. Eastern, you should know that at 9:10 a.m. Eastern, I’m probably emailing you back and saying, you missed your appointment. I’m on for regular calls. I think that’s reasonable, don’t you?”
Ms Olivia: “Yes. I’ve also got that 10 minute thing. And, I said that I don’t take appointments with new people but I will do something similar to you. First thing in the morning or towards the evening, towards sign out time. There are a lot of possibilities, we just have to communicate.
How to get a sexy texting session
Ms Olivia: Things are a little bit different when someone is looking for a texting session. Erika and I both do them. We love them. We type fast. It takes place in Discord or on Gchat.
It starts in a similar way via email or DM. For me, someone DMs and says, hey, do you do texting? Sometimes they’ll ask the question. I’m curious about the podcast on sissy urges. Okay. Can I talk to you about that over text? Absolutely. Yes. Same thing as you said, I set myself to busy. I’ll say, are you going to call in or are you going to pay online?
How to pay for a sexy texting session
Ms Erika: “Okay. So we have a Sexy Texting site for those areas that are not under extreme porn ban laws. And if you are and you try to go to sexytexting.com, we will probably be redirected to one of our more vanilla presenting sites. You can also use Text With Me 123.
Basically, it’s an online form. You select the amount of time you want to text with us. We can usually add on to that time if we want to continue. The thing about texting is you use it or lose it. So if you’re not sure, maybe you want to talk for 30 minutes. So buy a 20-minute session, and if you’re enjoying it, we can always add on. But here’s the problem. If you buy that 20-minute session and 10 minutes goes by and, you know, an accident happens out front of your house and you have to leave the chat, you’re still going to be charged for the entire amount. So use the time you’re going to buy.
You can also call the dispatcher and say, I would like to buy texting time with Erika or Olivia. The one thing about that is if you do get interrupted and we can’t finish the authorized time, let’s say 20 minutes, let’s say we use 15…”
Ms Erika: “I tell the dispatcher we only used 15 and then they can amend that. It’s just a matter of technicalities between one process and the other. So choose which one works for you. And again, I don’t expect everybody to memorize everything. Just know that those are possible and I’ll be able to direct you further when you connect with me.”
Ms Olivia: “Absolutely. Connect with Erika, connect with me, connect with the dispatcher, or you can click the live help button that pops up on all of our sites. And dispatchers are there, people in the core group of the people who keep things running behind the scenes, people. And again, they are not us. So treat them like a professional. You can ask whatever you want to ask, but the same rules apply. You’re not going to get a sexting session.”
Ms Erika: “Right.”
Ms Olivia: “Most people are pretty good about being polite to the dispatchers, right?”
Ms Erika: “Oh, absolutely. 100%. Very rarely do we have an issue with people being too rude or stepping beyond their bounds. If you do, the Dispatcher will say something like, “I’d rather not get into that, why don’t you save that for Ms Olivia?” They will usually change their behavior, no harm, no foul.
Do I have to be submissive to call a Femdom?
Ms Olivia: “This is a great question. Do I have to be submissive in order to call?”
Ms Erika: “Nope.”
Ms Olivia: “How do I know if I’m truly submissive?”
Ms Erika: “Give us a call. Let us put you through your paces and we’ll find out, won’t we?”
Ms Olivia: “I’ve never been submissive before. What if I don’t know what to do or I don’t do it right?”
Ms Erika: “The brilliant point. You’re the submissive. Just do as you’re told and everything will be fine. See, that’s the great thing. You don’t need to know. You just need to listen and obey. How lovely is that?”
Is it normal to be nervous?
Ms Olivia: “Next question: Is it normal to be nervous before my BDSM session with an online mistress?”
Ms Erika: “Oh, yes. And I’ve had people calling me for years that still say, oh, I just get so giddy and nervous as I pick up that phone to call you. I’m just so excited.”
Ms Olivia: “Mm-hmm. And listen, there’s nothing that you could tell us that we haven’t already heard. Don’t take that as a challenge because you don’t want to veer into things that are against our terms of service. But if you say, “I’m going through a divorce and I’ve never called a line like this. In fact, I didn’t even think they still existed, but I found the podcast and here I am. What do I do?” Well, don’t worry. We’re skilled with that.”
Ms Erika: “Yes. If there’s any time in your life where you don’t have to worry about what to say, it is in this instance. Because I don’t know if they picked up on this, Olivia, but we tend to be chatterboxes. We will carry the conversation. We will pepper you with poignant questions and suggestions. And before you know it, you’ll have loose lips too.”
BDSM pain play or erotic humiliation
Ms Olivia: “Here’s a question: I’m not into pain or humiliation. Can I still call?”
Ms Erika: “Absolutely. 100%.”
Ms Olivia: “Can I have hard limits or say no to something during a session? Or do I have to surrender completely? Erika, let’s talk about consent.”
Ms Erika: “Yes. Of course, depending on the situation, Olivia and I are going to try to make sure we fully understand what you’re looking for before the play, the negotiation process.
But if during the session things go awry, if I start going to a place, that is no longer fun for you then you should speak up, say something. The submissive always has the power, right, Olivia? And what is that power that they possess? The power of using a safe word!
What happens in a JOI session?
Ms Olivia: “So this leads to a question that I actually got recently. Do you give explicit jerk-off instructions, JOI sessions? Do you control how fast I stroke, what I do, all of that kind of stuff?” Short answer: yes.
Ms Erika: “Absolutely, I do. I think it’s quite boring to just sit there for 30 minutes going, ah, stroke it for me. Oh, it feels so good. Stroke it some more. I am detailed. Use those fingers, grind those knuckles, pull those balls. Oh, yeah, it’s a workout.”
GFE means Girlfriend Experience
Ms Olivia: “Let’s talk about the difference between a GFE call and a Femdom session? GFE means girlfriend experience.”
Ms Erika: “One thing to consider with us and doing a GFE session, we are not your submissive girlfriend. It’s more of a one-on-one egalitarian equal power type give and take. A Femdom session is exactly that where we take the lead. We’re listening to your needs, wants, and desires. We are then churning it through the Femdom ringer and then pulling it back out to you to help you grow, experience, or just have some fun with your kink.”
Ms Olivia: “And for me, and I think also for you, a lot of my regulars are, they would qualify as GFE and Femdom. I have long-term relationships with people. And they’ll call and they’ll say, this is happening in my life. Or they’ll ask for diet tips or workout tips or just life stuff. I personally love that.”
Ms Erika: “Oh, it is so magnificent. And you’re right, Olivia. Some of the longer callers, we are friends as much as anything else, right? We share our ups, our downs. Somebody just recently, wrote to me after a session saying, thank you so much for being there for me. I needed to unload today. Not the typical unloading I do with you, but an unloading nonetheless.”
Ms Olivia: “Hahaha true!”
Choosing the perfect Mistress for you
Ms Olivia: “This time has gone zipping by. One final question. How do I choose the perfect mistress?
Here’s the thing. You listen to Erika and I on the podcast. It tends to be PG-rated or R-rated. We sometimes will do a little bit of smut and that kind of thing. But we crack each other up on a regular basis.”
Ms Erika: “Yes, we do.”
Ms Olivia: “That may not be your cup of tea. No harm, no foul. You can even get in touch with us. Tell us what you’re looking for. And if that’s not our thing, we’ll make suggestions of some of the other ladies here or direct you to finding a perfect mistress. That’s my thought. What are your thoughts on how to choose the perfect mistress?”
Look at profiles on our main erotic sites like Cock Control
Ms Erika: “You can find out about the ladies on any one of our sites or one of our main sites like Cock Control.
You go there, you can peruse the profiles that the ladies have written themselves. You can hear audio samples, get a link to their blog, and you kind of get a feel for their style or dynamic.
If that seems very daunting to you and you still can’t make up your mind, like Olivia said, reach out to us or actually go to this site: My Perfect Mistress. There’s an online form. You fill it out. You send it in. The powers that be in the background look at your details and say, hmm, this lady might be good and they’ll recommend two or three mistresses. And you have the choice of reaching out to them yourself or getting a response. So they’ll send the mistress rec to the ladies they’re recommending and ask them to email you back. And that way you can get the ball rolling.”
Ms Olivia: “And listen, you can also call the dispatcher and ask for suggestions.
Like Erika, I strongly recommend that you click on the Hear My Voice button, especially if you are looking for a certain tone, accent and such.
Ms Erika: “Final thoughts. Fun adult engagement. Very little strings, if any, if you don’t want them. Try it. You’re going to like it.”
Get in touch:
Dial 1-800-356-6169
DISCORD: LDWOlivia and LDWErika
Email:
Olivia@EnchantrixEmpire.com Personal Blog: Experienced Mistress
Erika@EnchantrixEmpire.com Personal blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy
Olivia: “Next week, we promise we’re going to get back to the filthy, naughty, dirty smut. For now, though, thank you for joining us. Until next week, be bad, but in a very good way.
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