Today, Ms Olivia and Ms Erika explore the psychology behind power exchange and erotic control — not just physical dominance, but the power of ritual, obedience, and mental submission. Whether you’re craving structure in your submission, training under a strict sissy regime, or locked in chastity this conversation will shift how you think about distance domination. That said, are you now ready to learn more about Femdom tasks? Let’s get to it! Read on and/or listen to The Weekly Hot Spot Femdom Tasks episode on Spreaker or where ever you listen to podcasts.

The Weekly Hot Spot episode on Femdom Tasks

Ms Olivia: I’m Mistress Olivia, here with my friend, Ms Erika. Today, we’re diving into specific long-distance Femdom tasks. Specifically, Erika, let’s talk about three core categories: cock control, submissive instructions, and sissy training.

Ms Erika: Those are fantastic subjects, and probably the most popular requests we get.

Ms Olivia: That’s true! That’s why we’re going to share a few of our favorite assignments. We talked about this privately, and I wrote down an outline. Erika, when you saw it, what was your first thought?

Why we’re giving away these Femdom assignments

Ms Erika: I said, “This is a great outline, Olivia, but aren’t we giving it all away?” Let’s be clear, part of our mission is to educate and help people embrace their sexuality, of course. But it’s also to tease our skills, right?

Ms Olivia: Listen, if you hear this and think, “Wow, I’m good with just this.” then have at it, Sparky. We know it’s an investment to talk to us because, hey, we’re the Lamborghinis of the phone sex world!

Ms Erika: Let’s do it. Let’s give our listeners a little tease, a little gift to start the year off right. Happy New Year, everyone. Consider this our Femdom gift to you.

Ms Olivia: Perfect. And now, let’s start with cock control, then move to submissive instructions, and finish with sissy training.

Cock Control Task #1: The Hourly Torment

Ms Olivia: Here are the instructions. Set an alarm for every hour on the hour for an eight-hour period. When the chime sounds, you have exactly 90 seconds to stroke yourself to the very edge of orgasm.

• You can use lube, your hand only, or any authorized toy.
• Now, the moment that 90 seconds expire, we want you to remove all contact immediately, regardless of how close you are. In other words, hands off!

By the eighth hour, your cock will be weeping, swollen, and hypersensitive. Oh, my!

Ms Erika: Just how we like it.

Ms Olivia: Just how we like it. Begging and moaning. We want you to tell us you’re taking the challenge. Then, after eight hours, we want a report. Tell us things like the weight of your balls, the texture of your frustration. Do you still like us? Actually, we don’t care about the last one, but we do care about the weight of your balls and your frustration.

Erika, what makes this so fun for you?

What Mistress loves about assignments

Ms Erika: The setup is delicious. When I give a task and say, “Do this between now and Wednesday,” guess what I’m thinking about predominantly over those next few days? I’m thinking of you. I wonder how they’re doing. The fact that my control extends beyond the session is absolutely delightful.

Ms Olivia: You bring up a really good point, and I want to put an asterisk by it. I wonder if people sometimes think, “Oh, she gave me an assignment and now she’s off doing something else.” What Erika says is true. When we give an assignment, we do think about it. “Oh, I wonder what they’re doing – how they’re feeling. I can’t wait to hear the results.” The assignment works on our minds, too. 

Now Erika, you mentioned a twist to this?

Creativity and Mistress assignments

Ms Erika: Yes. Listeners, keep this in mind: we can customize any task. A twist on this one would be to cage up between the hourly timers. Or, if we’re catering to feminization, maybe you need to wear tight girdle panties for that hour. That’s the specific, catered fun that comes when we tailor a task just for you.

Ms Olivia: I love those. And Erika, did you notice? We did not say whether or not they get to come.

Ms Erika: Mm-hmm.

Ms Olivia: Whoops-a-doodle.

Ms Erika: And that’s a good lesson. The absence of permission does not give you permission. If your Mistress does not say, “and you can come,” the default is you’re denied.

Ms Olivia: Aw.

Ms Erika: Aw. But if you delight me enough with your report, maybe I’ll let you. There’s probably a good chance I’ll let you.

Ms Olivia: If you do this, send us a DM or an email to let us know you’re starting. And then let us know how it ends.

Cock Control Task #2: The Silk Cage Ritual

Ms Olivia: Okay, are you ready for cock control number two?

Ms Erika: I love that one. I’m getting chills just reading it over again.

Ms Olivia: This is a personal favorite. We talk a lot about chastity cages, but this is a silk cage ritual. Here’s how it works: Stroke until you get hard. After that, bind your erect cock—not tightly, just snug, snug enough to remind you. Use a silk scarf or a nylon stocking. Then, go to sleep.

If you’re able to fall asleep, you will wake up hard multiple times. If you wake up hard, you do not touch. You simply lie there, feeling the fabric, soft and slick, imagining it is a soft, feminine Mistress hand denying you.

Ms Erika: You don’t have to ask what part I like best. Imagine being a submissive in a distance domination scenario. This is brilliant. It’s almost like you’ve gotten the privilege of having your Mistress’s soft hands wrapped around you, controlling you all night. What is not to love?

Submissive Task #1: The Mirror Confession

Ms Olivia: Now for submissive tasks. The first one is called The Mirror Confession.

• Strip naked.
• Stand before a full-length mirror.
• Maintain eye contact with your own reflection while you slowly stroke yourself right to the edge.

This can be a sweet or sharp psychological humiliation. We want you to watch yourself beg. We want you to see your own face contort with need. We want you to see how we experience your delicious vulnerability.

As you do this, you must say aloud: “I am owned. I am denied. I am hers.” Repeat this until you reach the edge, and then stop.

Ms Erika: Wow.

Ms Olivia: We want to hear how long you lasted and how long it felt.

Ms Erika: I love it.

Ms Olivia: Erika, do you think we should give a specific time, or…?

How a Femdom decides what to do for your assignment

Ms Erika: Sometimes, especially when I’m getting to know someone, I leave tasks open-ended. “Let me know how long it took.” That way, I can see how they behave naturally. But remember, this task says until you reach the edge. It doesn’t say you can repeat it over and over.

If I gave that task and someone said, “I did this 15 times,” I’d say, “Where does it say you can repeat it?” Tasks, people… listen. I’m stepping on my soapbox. Tasks are more than just sexy fun, aren’t they, Olivia?

Ms Olivia: Yes.

Ms Erika: They test your submission, your ability to listen, and to follow instructions to the letter. I love it when someone asks for clarification. That tells me they are paying attention. So, if it doesn’t clearly say “do it all day,” the default is to do it once, as written. The absence of permission does not give you permission.

Ms Olivia: And for the males listening, talk to the females in your life. I guarantee every single one of us will say, “I was very clear in my instructions, and he didn’t listen.” It’s fine to ask for clarification during negotiation; that’s not topping from the bottom. But once instructions are given, communication is key.

Ms Erika: And honestly, it’s for your benefit. So pay attention. Use your words. But Olivia, I’m staring at the next assignment. I know you love a good mind-fuck. Do you want to tell them about it?

Submissive Task #2: The Destroyed Desire

Ms Olivia: I do. For those in orgasm delay, denial, or chastity, this assignment is for you.

• Write a 500-word essay describing in graphic detail exactly what you would do if we granted you permission to orgasm today.
• Write us porn. Be obscene, be specific, be desperate. It’s okay to beg. Describe the stroke, the speed, the position, the fantasy playing in your mind.

If you’re very lucky, you may end up in my spank bank because I love reading hot stuff.

Now, here’s the mind-fuck. After you write that 500-word essay… delete it. Do not send it. Do not save it. The act of destroying your own desire reinforces that your pleasure exists only at our discretion. The memory of what you wrote will haunt you. That’s the fun of the mind-fuck, and I will be thinking about that in my spank bank.

Ms Erika: Oh, absolutely. A little twist: imagine you have a tease session with me, and I say, “I’ll consider your orgasm if you write this essay. Do not send it to me, but message me when it’s done.” The next day, I get back to you: “Oh, you finished? Great. Now delete it.” That space of anticipation is perfect.

Ms Olivia: Or even in a session: “Okay, read me the first two sentences… Now delete.”

Ms Erika: So perfect.

Sissy Training Task #1: The Delicate Swallow

Ms Olivia: Now for sissy training. The first one is The Delicate Swallow. For the next 24 hours, every liquid that passes your lips must be consumed in an uber-ladylike way, like an old-timey lady at a high-society luncheon.

• The pinky finger extended from the glass.
• Delicate little sips that barely wet the tongue.
• Throat swallowing with an audible, submissive gulp.

No chugging, no masculine gulping. Each time you catch yourself reverting to brutish, thirsty gulping, you must stop immediately. Place your hand on your clitty through your clothes and whisper, “Ladies don’t guzzle.”

Ms Erika: Mm-hmm. And don’t worry, Cupcake, we’ll tell you when you can guzzle, and it won’t be with your wine or tea. But…

Ms Olivia: Yes, we know a couple of cum sluts we really appreciate when they guzzle.

Ms Erika: Oh, yes, indeed. This task reminds you of your femininity and your purpose, and it trains your comportment. You can compound it: for 24 hours, take tiny little bites of food, savored and twirled in your mouth.

Sissy Training Task #2: The Pavlovian Palate

Ms Olivia: The next sissy task is The Pavlovian Palate. This one can be done privately.

• Select three distinctly feminine flavors: strawberry lip gloss, vanilla extract on the tongue, or rose water dabbed on your wrists.
• Assign each flavor to a category of sissy thought.
  • Strawberry: Thoughts of oral service, worshipping, sucking, tasting.
  • Vanilla: Thoughts of penetration, being filled, stretched, claimed.
  • Rose: Thoughts of aesthetic transformation: softer skin, wider hips, painted nails.

Whenever a thought from that category arises—and for a true sissy, they arise constantly—immediately apply that flavor to your lips or tongue. Don’t just imagine it; physically taste the sweetness and associate it with being a sissy, being owned. You can even dip it into humiliation.

Ms Erika: That is delicious and complex. I love it.

Ms Olivia: This training makes your responses more rote. Eventually, the mere taste of strawberry will make your clitty tingle, maybe even leak, without any physical touch. However, and this is crucial, you are not allowed to masturbate. Just suffer the flavor-triggered arousal. Let the taste of vanilla throb in your mouth while your clitty strains against the lace.

Ms Erika: Oh, that is delicious, isn’t it?

Ms Olivia: We’re going to rewire that pretty little sissy brain, aren’t we?

Ms Erika: Yes, we are.

Final Thoughts & Your Turn

Ms Olivia: For our final thoughts, we’d love to know: what are the favorite assignments you’ve had from your Mistress?

Ms Erika: I love that. Yes, please let us know. And here’s a question for you: what if your Mistress gave you a task you absolutely detest? A writing assignment, for instance. Remember, if you detest it, it’s torment. What would you do at that point? I want to know how you feel as a submissive and what you would do.

Ms Olivia: That’s a great point. If it’s a task for your Mistress, could you say, “I really hate writing”? She might change it.

Ms Erika: Mm-hmm. I’d ask, “Why do you hate writing?” I want to know the reason. If you say, “I was never any good at it,” well, I’m not looking for Hemingway, darling. Just share your thoughts with me.

Ms Olivia: Before we go, as we mentioned, we offer private phone or text sessions where we really get to know you. If you’ve never done a session with us, there’s a page on my blog called “New Here” that answers frequently asked questions. You can start there at Experienced Mistress.

Ms Erika: Yes. Get in touch.

Ms Olivia: I want to highlight something Erika mentioned. Remember, obedience isn’t measured by perfection. Each attempt demonstrates your willingness to be a good sub. It demonstrates our control and our mutual dance of dominance and submission. We can’t wait to find out what you do and how you do. So let us know.

Ms Erika: Exactly.

Ms Olivia: Thanks for joining us for this edition of The Weekly Hot Spot. Until next time, happy training.

Get in touch!

Mistress Olivia:   Olivia@EnchantrixEmpire.com

Ms Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress

Mistress Erika:  Erika@EnchantrixEmpire.com

Ms Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

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