One of the most popular episodes of The Weekly Hot Spot podcast is: How To Give A Blow Job! This episode has lots of practical tips from three Femdom Mistresses on how to suck cock. If you’ve ever worried about your cock sucking skills, just wait until you hear the stories of epic cock sucking failures, the learning curve (pun intended) of giving head, and so much more! Read on and listen to this How to Give a Blow Job episode of The Weekly Hot Spot as you’re reading the transcript. Remember if you need or want private lessons for giving a blow job, here’s how you can get a session with the hosts of this BDSM podcast.
It’s all about cocksucking!
Ms. Olivia: Welcome to The Weekly Hot Spot. Kink conversation, BDSM advice, and insight from the worlds of distance domination and phone sex. I’m Mistress Olivia and I’m here with Ms. Erika. We have a special guest who is back by popular demand, Goddess Mandy. Thank you so much for being here.
Ms. Mandy: You are welcome. Great to be here with you lovely, sexy ladies.
Ms. Erika: Good to have you, Miss Mandy.
Ms. Mandy: Thank you.
Ms. Olivia: I think this particular episode is going to be off-the-hook.
If you’re listening and planning on masturbating, you should get lubed up right now because we’re going to get right into the good good.
We’re going to talk about how Mistresses give blow jobs. Then we’re going to talk about tips for you if you are curious about giving a blow job.
Ladies, have you had lots of questions about how to give blow jobs? Is this a common question you get?
Questions about how to give a blow job
Ms. Mandy: Yes. There are so many questions asked, but this is definitely in the top three.
Ms. Erika: We will get into it, but there are so many types of kink and sexual play that involve oral stimulation of the penis. I like to up their game and I will explain that a little bit later.
It’s not just a blowjob, guys. It’s a lot more.
Ms. Olivia: Those are words to live by. Oh, wait. Those are words to suck by.
Ms. Mandy: That’s a much better way to say it.
Ms. Olivia: Let’s get right to it.
Each of us is going to describe how we give a blow job. These are our personal techniques from us to you. Some of these things you’ll be able to use. “Oh, that sounds fantastic!” Or maybe you just want to jack off listening to our voices as we describe a blow job.
Mandy, we’ll start with you.
Blow job tips from Goddess Mandy
Ms. Mandy: Lay back, whatever you want to do, just enjoy.
I like using my hand, with my long fingers, stroking gently, running them up and down to start. At the same time, I like kissing and licking the shaft. Of course, the head needs some nice attention. Then I start sucking. First the head. I swirl my tongue over it, then under it. Things are pretty much cooking by now.
That cock is really, really hard and maybe, just maybe, dripping a little bit. Or a lot. A lot of bit, maybe. Making sure the balls get some attention is always a part of things. Cannot leave those balls out, that would just be wrong.
Ms. Erika: Mandy, you just made me hungry. I want some, too!
Ms. Mandy: You want some of my mouth, too? Okay!
Don’t forget to play with his balls!
Ms. Erika: I would love to share a cock with you. I love oral sex.
Your techniques are very much like mine, slow and steady, until it’s not. A lot of fondling with fingertips, exploring that cock with your lips. And like you said, not forgetting to tickle the balls softly with fingertips to firm gentle massage to get that testosterone flowing.
This is a technique anybody can use. I found some great information on Manvsweight.com, which is a site that is sadly gone now, about testicle massage and it helps to release more testosterone into the system. We all know what testosterone does to guys, right?
Ms. Mandy: Yes we do.
Ms. Erika: Much like you, Miss Mandy, a firm grip with the lips, all the way down. I alternate with barely there lips. I do a tongue swirl as well, but I usually wait until about ¾ of the way in, maybe really close to orgasm. When you pull your mouth up off that cock and the cock’s head just passes the frenulum of your tongue (where your tongue attaches to the bottom of your mouth), you swirl that tongue around real quick. As you pull out and s l i d e back down, it has produced explosive moans and unbelievable orgasms in the past.
Ms. Olivia: I know I’ve said this before, but I really wish I had a dick. I would have been stroking and splooging listening to both of you. I want a dick. I just really want a dick. If anyone wants to know what to get me for Christmas, I want a real penis, please. Attached to my body. So you would have to be a witch or a wizard to get it for me, that’s still what I want.
Ms. Erika: Goddess can give you a penis, Olivia.
Ms. Mandy: You can always, always ask for what you want.
Ms. Olivia: Absolutely. I’m sending it out into the Universe.
I only want a penis for about a week because I would not get anything else done while I have it. I don’t want to stop being a girl because I love my boobs. I love my vagina. I love my round ass. I don’t want to get rid of any of that. I just want to be a chick with a dick for about a week – on vacation.
Ms. Mandy: On vacation, no less. Not just any week, but it has to be vacation.
Ms. Erika: She won’t be getting anything else done but playing with the happy stick between her legs.
Ms. Olivia: And because I’m on vacation, someone else will be bringing me food. Obviously, I’m going to have to drink to have sustenance.
Ms. Mandy: You can’t stroke around the clock without that.
Ms. Olivia: I can see you’ve also thought about this. I have given it way too much thought.
Ms. Mandy: You have, but we’re not judging. It’s all good.
I have told many clients that I have fantasized about having a penis and they were surprised.
Ms. Erika: We need to take a poll of the Enchantrix Mistresses because now you have three Enchantrix Mistresses right here admitting to you how much fun it would be to have a real attached penis for a few days.
I’m in the same boat. I think it would be fabulous. I’m sure I would be able to get something done. I might be able to get dressed for the day, but not much else.
Ms. Mandy: You’re on vacation, too, for your new dick for the week.
Ms. Olivia: You should totally do a poll on Twitter, Erika. If you’re not following Erika on Twitter, you should be.
Ms. Erika: @ErikaEnchantrix and you’ll find me.
Ms. Olivia: I am @MistressOlivia1.
Ms. Mandy: I’m not on Twitter yet.
Ms. Olivia: We’ve got to try and get you on Twitter.
Ms. Erika: We talk about you, Miss Mandy. I talked about you this morning on Twitter and you missed out, darling.
Ms. Olivia: We talk about you a lot. Do you remember the episode where we talked about being a Switch and being a submissive? When Erika said, “Oh, my God! Boners are popping out all over the Enchantrix Empire.”
Ms. Mandy: We need to talk more about that, don’t we ladies?
Ms. Erika: I teased that I was going to be in late today because I was doing this fantastic podcast with you. For anyone without Twitter, you can see my Twitter feed on my blog.You, too, Miss Olivia, right?
Ms. Olivia: Yes.
Ms. Erika: My blog address is IntelligentPhoneFantasy.com.
Ms. Olivia: You have your instructions. Mandy is going to sign up for Twitter. We will help her. You are going to answer Erika’s poll.
My instructions are to get the lube out and start stroking while listening to this podcast.
Ms Olivia loves to suck cock!
I do a blow job similar to you ladies, but I want to talk about the mind-fuck blow job. He needs to be able to watch what I’m doing. Standing up is good or on the couch. Not laying down. He needs to be able to see my face and his cock.
Like the two of you, I cozy on up, maybe my breasts are bare. Maybe I’m wearing a super-sexy beautiful bra, my fingertips rubbing gently on his taint. My tongue goes right between his balls. Then, licking right up that shaft, all the way up, my tongue over that frenulum and then right over that pee hole.
I’m getting him absolutely crazed and begging and panting, saying, “Please suck my dick! Please. Suck. My. Dick.”
I just look at him and give him a wink and kiss the tip of that cock. making kissy noises
Ms. Erika: You tease.
Ms. Olivia: I’m squeezing the head of his cock with my moist, wet lips. Then, while he’s watching, I open my mouth and he watches his cock disappearing, inch by inch, into my mouth. But here’s the catch. He doesn’t feel my lips on his shaft.
I begin to breathe and the cold air swirling over that cock changes to hot air swirling around. His cock is there, but there’s no suction. My lips are not on that shaft and he didn’t feel anything as he’s going in my mouth. Hence the mind fuck. He knows what he should be feeling as he’s going into my mouth.
Then I clamp down on that shaft with my lips and suck my cheeks in so it’s a vacuum. He doesn’t go in my mouth inch by inch. He is fucking engulfed.
Ms. Mandy: Wow. Holy crap. That’s good.
Ms. Erika: Is it getting hot in here or is it Olivia? Holy fuck.
Ms. Mandy: It’s definitely Olivia. That’s really clear.
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Ladies, let’s change it up a little bit.
We’ve talked about the fabulous blow jobs we do. I want to know if you’ve had an epic fail blowjob.
Erika, let’s start with you.
Don’t do THIS with your blow job!
Ms. Erika: I can’t say that I have personally, but when we were talking about this podcast, I remember many years ago when I was in my early twenties, I had a friend at work who was a little bit older and she was telling us she was a virgin.
When she got married, she was very uninformed about sex and sexual matters. She actually thought a “blow job” meant you blow. Can you imagine her wrapping her lips around his dick and going blowing sounds?
Ms. Olivia: It really is misnamed. It should be a suck job. Why is it called a blow job? Who thought of this?
I have a theory about this.The word “blowjob” was coined by a man who was rock hard and horny. He wasn’t thinking straight and the two words just stuck together. That’s the origin of “blowjob.”
Ms. Erika: It’s a job that blows.
Ms. Olivia: I’m going to put that in Wikipedia.
I have an epic fail.
It was before I was into pain play. I was really young and it was one of my first blow jobs. I was trying so hard. I knew it was important, but I had no clue what I was doing.
I thought, “I want to experiment with a little bit of hot and cold. My mouth is hot so I’m going to do something cold.” I had some chilled white wine right there and I took some in my mouth and then sucked his cock right in.
There was a beat. Beat.
“WHAT THE FUCK?!”
If you’re listening and want to do that. Do it with something cold like water. You can do fuzzy water if you want bubbles. Fruit juice is fun and festive to do. Do not use alcohol.
Ms. Erika: Unless you are into a little pain in your pee pee.
Ms. Mandy: That’s a whole other story, a whole topic for us to entertain, right, ladies?
Ms. Olivia: Do you have an epic fail, Mandy?
Attitude is important with cock sucking
Ms. Mandy: I don’t. At least not one I am aware of or remember.
I’m thinking about coming at this from a different angle than both of you. If you were thinking, “I don’t want to be here,” or “I’m not into this,” maybe you aren’t feeling well or maybe you aren’t happy with your partner. Maybe you’re not into that space or wanting to give a blow job at that moment, you’re not going to give a very good blowjob. Your heart and the rest of you might not be into it.
That’s where my brain went.
Ms. Olivia: You bring up a good point. We’re going to be talking about techniques, yes, but one of the most critical things is not technique. It’s being fucking enthusiastic.
“Look at this penis! I am a happy camper. I’m going to go down on this. Woo hoo!”
That makes up for , “I have really good technique. Let’s get this party started.” (said in a bored voice)
Ms. Mandy: That is totally true. When it comes down to it, so much in all of sex is between our ears.
Ms. Olivia: There is a lot of debate about this, with women more than with sissies, gay men, bi, those who are bi-curious, or cuckolds – some of the types of callers we have. I want to hear from both of you. Weigh in on swallowing or not swallowing cum when giving a blow-job.
I swallow. I like cum. I am definitely a swallower.
Unless I am snowballed. Then I think, “I’m swallowing, but his cum is in my mouth and I’m kissing him.” It’s still both of us swallowing.
Ms. Mandy: I love sharing.
Ms. Erika: I’m a big fan of swallowing as well.
I think it’s a very intimate thing between two people to share. Snowballing is one step along that line. It’s one level up.
The taste of cum
Ms. Erika: With that said, I am also very picky about my spunk. No funky spunk, boys. That means, if you are going to get these luscious lips around that cock and I’m going to taste your spunk, that means you have to eat healthy. You have to take care of yourself.
I wrote 10 Ways to Avoid Funky Spunk Syndrome on my blog and there are 10 tips and techniques on how to avoid funky spunk syndrome. Check it out and let that lady in your life enjoy sucking that dick instead of gagging.
Ms. Olivia: We also did a blog post about sucking cock. Do you remember, Erika? It was right after the cantaloupe season. I was saying how much pineapple helps the taste of cum and not to eat asparagus. Erika said, “One time, cantaloupes were on sale so we stocked up on cantaloupes. We were eating it morning, noon, and night. Let me tell you, that cum tasted like candy.”
Ms. Erika: I thought, “Holy crap! That tastes like candy.”
Ms. Mandy: Feed me, honey. I’m ready for Round 4. Let’s go, honey.”
Ms. Olivia: Let me also mention, if you are on a Keto Diet, cum, with all its protein and nutrients, is part and parcel of a proper Keto Diet. Have him eat lots of cantaloupe and that will be the Keto version of candy. I’m so helpful.
We hope people are taking notes on this podcast because that’s a big pro-tip. I’m going to send that to a Keto blog. I’m going to get banned. They will say, “Fuck you, perv.”
Ms. Mandy: “We’re not talking about cantaloupe in this way, Get out. Get your ass out of here”
I will absolutely swallow if you are my guy and I love you. I know it sounds corny, but that’s where I’m going. That’s how I feel.
I will tell you I am not the biggest fan of cum, I will say, however, I am the biggest fan of cum eating and feeding someone else their cum.
I totally want you to drink your cum. And I would feed you your cum any day of the week, any moment of the day. It’s so wonderful and pleasurable for him physically and emotionally if he is eating his cum.
Ms. Olivia: These are some of the people who need to learn to give a blowjob. Women, men, and frankly, everyone in between. We’ll go through the different categories, but first, cis women.
Cis women need to know how to give a good blowjob. Many don’t.
Erika and I, maybe you, too, Mandy. We share a caller who says his girlfriend in college used him to teach blow job lessons to her girlfriends because he has a huge cock.
Blow job lessons
Ms. Mandy: I like this story already.
Ms. Olivia: Let’s talk about sucking big cocks.
I know every guy wants to have a 16-inch dick that is as big as a sapling, a large or medium-sized tree.
Ms. Erika: How do you carry that thing around?
Ms. Olivia: Mammoth. Like a wine bottle. “That’s my dick. I’m gonna swing it around. Fuck it.”
That doesn’t fit in the mouth. It just doesn’t unless you are using a Snapchat filter that creates a mouth that goes from one ear to the other. I’m telling you, a normal-sized penis will fit into a normal-sized mouth.
But if you are sucking a big cock, there are certain things you have to do, especially if you want to keep breathing. I’m a big fan of breathing.
Ms. Mandy: I’m going to second that.
Ms. Erika: I’m addicted to breathing.
Ms. Olivia: We will talk more about big cocks as we go along.
Deep throating. Erika?
Deep throat and the gag reflex
Ms. Erika: There are a certain number of people out there that are really aroused and turned on by the sound of gagging and the copious amounts of saliva that comes with that, but it’s not very common.
I am sure that any guy who has a lady gag on his dick, he was really afraid things were not going to turn out well. We know what happens after a gag and we won’t mention it because it’s gross.
Two things. You have to get that out of your head. If you’re lucky, depending on the width to get the cock in your mouth, you’re going to have to focus more on your hands.
If you do want to get that thing down your throat, or your esophagus because it doesn’t go down the windpipe, that wouldn’t be good, there are certain techniques and I was just teaching somebody yesterday. Olivia, you know who it is, a fan of the podcast. I was teaching her how to deep throat without gagging.
Ms. Olivia: Tell everyone the instructions you gave her. I thought they were epic.
Ms. Erika: There are two techniques. One is desensitization and that is getting the cock or dildo if you are practicing, is to get right before that gag reflex, just as you feel that little tingle that you’re going to gag. Hold it there gently without moving. Practice that over and over and your body will learn not to gag on that.
However, a lot of people need a little bit more than just desensitization of that gag reflex.
I’ve learned an acupressure technique. Take your left hand, and I don’t know why it is the left hand, somebody can look that up and tell us, but take your left hand, take your thumb and fold it into your palm. Take your fingers and squeeze that thumb very hard for about 30 seconds.Then release the hand.
Now, squeeze the web of your left hand between your thumb and forefinger with your right hand thumb and forefinger.
I know that is a lot of information, so go ahead and replay it or send me an email at Erika@EnchantrixEmpire.com, I’ll give you the techniques for free.
It’s acupressure with the left hand, squeezing the thumb and then squeezing the webbing. We’ve had a little bit of success. You need to practice. Some people need 35 seconds of squeezing and pinching. Other people might not need so much. Practice makes perfect and it’s so much fun to practice.
Cuckolds who suck cock
Ms. Olivia: I’ve got a caller who is a cuckold and is emotionally connected to women, but in the cuckold scene, loves to suck cock. He has a cock that he’s sucking right now that is really big, like really long and thick. I talked to him about how he adjusted to the size and he said it was really important to allow the gag reflex, but to stay relaxed with it. He said not to stop your blowjob just because you gag.
That’s why it’s important to find out, in your mouth, where that gag reflex starts.
It’s a type of edge play. Don’t go over the edge and do gross stuff. He said to pay attention to your airway because a thick cock can make you gag.
Practice breathing before you are going to give him head, suck air in, create a suction, then just stay relaxed for the face fucking. Don’t freak out and stop the blow job, whatever you do. He says that part of this is that you don’t want to get freaked out or worried anticipating, “Oh, my God. I’m going to gag and mess this up.”
Get with Erika, get these assignments and practice, practice, practice.
So who needs to give a blowjob? Who needs to learn to suck cock?
Ms. Erika: Everybody.
Bi curious cock sucking
Ms. Olivia: Someone who is bi-curious, someone who is a cuckold, someone who is gay, but never explored his gay tendencies. Cuckold fantasies are often about bi-curious or gay scenes.
Ms. Mandy: I agree. I have found a lot of people who are interested in cuckolding or who are being cuckolded by a partner are often very interested in cocks and cock sucking. I’ve found that in the many years I have been doing this and talking to many, many, many different types of people.
Ms. Erika: I think we all agree the preponderance of people with cuckolding fantasies have some sort of curiosity going on. The fun part is, even those who come to us and say, “No, no, no, no, no! I think it’s a beautiful thing. I like her being pleasured. I like watching her being pleasured.” They are shying away from the bi-curious aspects of cuckolding.
But isn’t it interesting when you get these regular callers and you play out these fantasies with role playing, talking one-on-one with them about these desires, at some point down the road, they become comfortable and feel safe to express their desires. They admit something they probably never even admitted to themselves before. They have this great curiosity about what it feels like to put a cock in their mouths.
Ms. Olivia: I wonder if they are really admitting it or because you are such a safe space for them to let go and explore. They are exploring something new that is perfectly legitimate in saying, “No, I am not interested in men.”
Let me also say, and this is kind of a weird thing about cock sucking or being bi-curious, but there are gradations in all of this.
For example, I know a lot of men who are cock-curious, but they don’t want the man to go along with it. They don’t want to kiss a man. They don’t want him holding him. It’s not an emotional relationship at all. Purely sexual and cock-sucking curiosity.
Ms. Mandy: It’s all about the cock. It’s not about any of that other stuff. It’s not intimate in any way at all. No kissing. No touching.
Ms. Erika: I just want that cock and that’s it.
Olivia, I love what you just said about the joy and honor of being able to provide the space for somebody to explore and open up their boundaries. It is one of the things why I do what I do because it’s so fantastic to be able to affect somebody’s life like that.
Male submissives told to suck cock for Mistress
Ms. Olivia: One of the things that comes with that level of trust is it deepens their submissive tendencies.
Cuckold fantasy and reality is often about submission. Blow jobs can often be a huge part of submissive play.
For example, in a couple scene where he is not allowed to have sex with his wife because her body is only for her lover, she might give him what I call a non-blowjob blow job. He can’t put it in her mouth, can’t get it near her mouth, but she might spit on his cock or let him rub his cock on her beautiful tits, but she will say, “Don’t cum on my body. That’s just for him. I’ll stop if you don’t obey.”
And then she is sitting cross-legged looking at his aching hard cock and she’s wearing panties, or not wearing panties, and he’s looking at her lover’s cum right in her pussy or on her breasts. Maybe she is rubbing just one fingertip up and down on his hardness and then she says, “Oops! He just texted me. Gotta go, bye,” and just leaves him hanging. She might give him a ruined orgasm. She takes him to that edge and then removes the stimulation and he start to cum from the sensation and just spurt spurt spurt. That’s the best.
So making the submissive do things he might not otherwise do is what I am talking about. Talking someone into his cock-sucking fantasy.
Ms. Mandy: I always go back to this so anyone who knows me won’t be surprised, but I really think it’s all about the relationship. If the submissive trusts me and truly respects me, trusts and adores me, then he will do whatever it is that makes me happy. I really want that for both of us. Not just for me. But if something is a hard limit, I will always, always respect that.
But, I do love, oh, my God, love watching men suck cock. It’s one of my favorite things to watch or fantasize about.
Ms. Olivia: Limits when having that conversation and knowing the person well enough about what you can and what you shouldn’t do – that’s so important.
Ms. Erika: I think a man who can open up his boundaries and shun societal norms and put their lips around a cock for our relationship is a fantastic thing.
Boundaries are very important and talking about those boundaries outside of play is paramount. A lot of times you might get somebody who comes to you and says that cock sucking is a soft boundary. They might not come out and say it like that, but might say, “Well, I don’t know about that.” If a guy has his mind set that it is an absolute no, just like Mandy said, they will say, “No, no, no. I am not thinking about that.”
But, as we discussed, there’s an evolution to that submission. Especially in a new relationship, the more you trust, the more you want to please the other person and the more the boundaries might be shifted or moved.
And just like Ms. Mandy, I love men sucking cock. You don’t have to be gay.
Gay porn
Ms. Olivia: I love watching gay male porn, male cock sucking porn. Some of it is just oh my God. And let me also say that gay men gave me some of my best blowjob tips.
Ms. Mandy: No surprise. Not shocking at all.
Ms. Olivia: The first thing gay men said was, “You have to be into it. If you are not into it and legitimately enthusiastic, don’t fucking do it.” It’s worse if you’re not into it.
Ms. Erika: Just like we’ve been mentioning, cock-sucking is a mental thing as much as it is technique. Being able to practice behaviors with us in preparation for perhaps some real time play out there is very important. Practicing the behavior, eroding the social conditioning that you’re not gay, but an open sexual person and this is something you want to explore.
We provide that safe space for them to be enthusiastic, to let out those emotions about how glorious it is versus the actual technique is paramount.
No judgement zone
Ms. Mandy: Erika, you said that so well. Providing that safe space to be their true, authentic selves. It really is what is needed. It’s hard to hear men struggle to embrace these desires because they grew up with the message that it is totally wrong. They might have heard it from their church or their peer group and society as a whole.
For so many, it can be so difficult to reconcile that what we heard and learned when we were younger they said was right versus what we want and desire inside of us, what’s really there. It can be so hard.
I always let them know I am here for them. I won’t judge them and I always, always want the best for them. I want them to be their true, authentic selves. Be that in your life. Period.
Ms. Erika: That’s a beautiful thing.
Ms. Olivia: That is a beautiful thing. It’s important to point out that your true, authentic self is not a static thing. One day you could be all fired up and want to suck cock and another day, meh about it. Another time, one day you might want to be flogged. And yet another day, you might want sensual tease and denial.
Just because you suck a cock, it doesn’t mean anything. It doesn’t mean that every single time you have a sexual encounter you’re going to be sucking dick. We give way too much emphasis on, “Oh, my God. I did this – and the meaning of this is this.”
The meaning is you are making that shit up. Stop it.
Ms. Mandy: Don’t judge yourself.
Ms. Olivia: Don’t look for meaning that makes yourself miserable. That’s just dumb, unless you like being miserable.
Ms. Mandy: That’s another story.
Ms. Olivia: Get straight with yourself and others and say, “Well, I enjoy being miserable.” Okay, that’s awesome. Good for you. I don’t want to be around it.
Ms. Erika: If you call me, I’ll help with that.
Ms. Olivia: Haven’t you both known people who just like being miserable?
Ms. Mandy and Ms. Erika in unison: Yes!
Ms. Erika: It’s toxic and draining.
Ms. Olivia: It certainly is their choice because it is their life, but nah, not for me.
Sissy and the cock pillows
Ms. Olivia: Now, do you want to know who I think are some of the most fun cock suckers ever, whether they are already sucking cock, and a lot of them are, or whether they are curious about how to suck? Sissies! I heard this term from a sissy and I said, “Oh, my God. I’m using that forever.”
In my experience, a sissy is a good cock sucker and this particular sissy calls her lips “Cock Pillows.”
Ms. Mandy: I love it. There is a nice image coming to my brain. I like it a lot.
Ms. Erika: “Just take that cock and rest it right here on these little pillows.”
Ms. Mandy: Awww, right here. Right here.
Ms. Olivia: That goes along with the sissy slut. This can be sucking real cock. It can also be sucking a dildo. Learning to suck a dildo, sucking a dildo while watching porn, or while we’re on the phone together. There are all these various ways to take any of this.
Just because you are a sissy does not mean you automatically want to suck cock. If you’re a cross dresser, the chances are you do not want to suck cock. However, a lot of crossdressers, when en femme, say it is part of the feminine experience.
I’ve used a shit-ton of examples there, but the point is just because one person is doing something or the Internet meme is publicizing X and you don’t exactly fit in X, don’t worry about it. You do you, buddy.
Ms. Erika: You’re right, Miss Olivia. Just because we use the term sissy, and some cross-dressers like to be referred to as a sissy, does not mean that a male phallus is involved. Those sissies usually quickly add, “I’m a sissy, but I’m a lesbian sissy.” Even if you’re a lesbian sissy and you don’t want anything to do with a male penis, some of the girls still like sucking a dildo. In my mind, that counts as a cock-sucker. So you’re sucking my girl cock. That works for me; let’s do it.
Ms. Mandy: My experience with sissies is certainly varied, but I have found that most of them have at least some interest in cock. For some of them, it is all about the cock.
Ms. Olivia: BOOM!
Ms. Mandy: BOOM!
Ms. Olivia: Mic drop.
It’s all about the cock!
Ms. Mandy: It’s all about the cock. For me, as I think you already know, whatever your desires are, we are going to have a full shit-ton of fun exploring together.
Ms. Olivia: We’ve given our listeners some really practical tips. First off, relax. Use your hands.
Pay attention to those balls. Lick the balls, stroke the balls, tug on the balls if he likes that. Tug on them gently.
Be enthusiastic. Ask what they want, but don’t say, “Do you like this? Do you like this?” Don’t interrogate him. Most men don’t do that, but girls say, “How about this? How about this?” and he wants to say, “Shut up!”
Ms. Mandy: “It’s all feeling damn good. Just be quiet. Be quiet. Stop asking questions.”
Ms. Olivia: We don’t have to do the after-action report during the event.
Have a glass of water, not white wine, I’m just saying, but have a glass of water nearby so you can spit, so your mouth doesn’t get dry.
A secret cock sucking technique
Ms. Olivia: What do both of you feel about moaning? Or singing? Or talking while you’re giving a blowjob?
Ms. Erika: Moaning, yes. Grunting, yes. Screaming, yes. Let’s not have a conversation, though. I’m focused on something else.
Ms. Olivia: It’s not really a conversation. I’m going to put my fingers in my mouth and hmm-mm-mm-hmm-mm-mm. It’s more like moaning, but it doesn’t even sound like words. It just ends up being a wave pattern.
Ms. Erika: I totally misunderstood. I thought you meant for him to be moaning or him talking to me.
Ms. Olivia: No, the dick is in your mouth.
Ms. Erika: I will scream on that cock. The reverberations from your sound can feel like little tickles depending on his sensitivity. Like a little vibrator in your mouth.
Ms. Mandy: That’s what I was thinking about all the vibrations.
I’ve done everything except the singing and I love to sing, so at some point in my life, I might have been singing on a cock. It could have easily happened. Trust me. I’m open to all of it.
I think the vibration is good, so I say yes to all of it.
Ms. Erika: You’ve just given me a great idea. I’m going to sing “Happy Birthday” on that cock on his birthday.
Ms. Mandy: Oh, my God, that’s great.
Ms. Olivia: If he’s into sounding, put the birthday candle right into the urethra. Only kidding. Never put candles in your urethra. They will break off. Wax will get inside. You don’t want to get …
That was an example of the comedic gold you get while listening to The Weekly Hot Spot.
Practice sucking on a dildo
Ms. Olivia: We’re talking about singing, humming, but I have to tell you, watch your fucking teeth. That’s one of the biggest things, especially when someone transitions from a dildo. Practicing sucking cock on a dildo then going to a real cock, the dildo isn’t going to say, “Woah! Watch your teeth!” But the real cock attached to a person who is going to yell, “Oh, stop!”
Ms. Mandy: “Oh, were my teeth involved? I’m sorry.”Can I add one thing about the teeth? Because of the big wide world we live in ladies, there are going to be those men who slightly enjoy or get off on a little bit of teeth. They might be few and far between, but they are out there because they like some pain.
It’s not going to be every single real cock in the world is against it.
Ms. Olivia: It’s physically, situationally dependent.
Take his cock and lay it flat against his belly while you are kneeling beside him. Your two bodies will be in the shape of the letter L. Lean over and take his frenulum, the sweet spot, in your mouth. Cover your lips over your teeth and suck in the skin. You can shake your head side to side gently, like a dog or cat playing with a toy, back and forth like that. It feels amazing. It’s a little pinch on that area, but it’s not painful. Using your mouth is similar to using your nails on that same spot, which is fun.
Mandy, that was a really good point.
All of these, short of being enthusiastic, which is for everybody, but all of you pay attention to your partner. Have you ever had anyone say, “It turns me on to get a disinterested blowjob,”?
Ms. Mandy: No.
Ms. Erika: My disinterested blow job is while I’m watching TV. I just wanted to say that.
Ms. Olivia: You remind me that I am a baseball fan and baseball season is really long. During the dog days of July and August, it’s coming down to the wire. I love giving a blowjob while watching a game. There are huge amounts of time that nothing happens.
“It’s 2-0 now. Oh, gosh, now it’s 3-0. What will happen? Will he walk or will he strike out the next pitch? Oh, my. He was hit by the ball. Let’s go to first.base. The trainer’s going to come check him out.”
I’m multi-tasking.
Ms. Erika: What if the bases are loaded and they get a home run? What’s going to happen to that dick? Are you going to be able to control yourself and not hurt him?
Ms. Olivia: Oh, he will wait. He will fucking wait. And if I happen to give a blowjob during playoff season, motherfucker, he will wait.
Ms. Mandy: It’s getting good now, so you have to wait.
Ms. Olivia: I might have my hand on that penis, but I’m not paying attention to it. That will be completely obvious.
Ms. Erika: That’s interesting. If you want a blowjob with someone disinterested, give me a call. I will be disinterested for you.
Ms. Olivia: That’s right! It’s the World Series right now so if you want a non-blowjob blow-job, while I watch the World Series. Who will win? The Astros? Cheaters! Or the Braves? The Mets fans hate them! I hate both teams, but I am still watching.
Ms. Mandy: I’m struggling to watch and I’m a humongous baseball fan. I adore the game of baseball, period.
Ms. Olivia: You’re a Sox fan, right?
Ms. Mandy: I am.
Ms. Olivia: I was rooting for the Sox, I really was. I am a Mets fan, so it was odd considering. We went belly up. Like we always do.
Back to blowjobs.
Ms. Erika: Blowjobs and baseball. Let’s start a new song.
Ms. Olivia: It’s all ball handling, right? Football. It’s all ball handling. Except for hockey. Then it’s puck handling. So that would be a fuck puck.
Ms. Erika: I always wondered. Is it a coincidence that a football is shaped much like a testicle, or not? These questions I wonder, late at night.
Ms. Mandy: “I ponder,” says Mistress Erika.
Ms. Olivia: Face it. We’ve gone far afield. I am so sorry I led us there, but I have heard from people they do like the excursions.
Ms. Mandy: Then just go! Go on that excursion and get it out of your system.
Ms. Olivia: Excursions and more.
Do you need blowjob training? Reach out to us.
My email is Olivia@EnchantrixEmpire.com. My Twitter is @MistressOlivia1 and my blog is ExperiencedMistress.com.
Ms. Erika: My email is Erika@EnchantrixEmpire.com, my Twitter is @ErikaEnchantrix, and my blog is IntelligentPhoneFantasy.com.
Ms. Mandy: My email is Mandy@EnchantrixEmpire.com and I do not have Twitter yet. My blog is very similar to Mistress Erika’s, but it is IntelligentPhoneFantasies.com – with Fantasies, plural.
Ms. Erika: Yeah, when you come to my blog, you just get a fantasy, motherfucker. Just one.
Ms. Olivia: You want multiple fantasies?
Ms. Erika: Go to Mandy. Just kidding.
Questions for listeners
Ms. Olivia: I want to know what you learned about cock sucking as a result of this podcast?
Ms. Erika: Good question. I want to know about your blow job fails.
Ms. Olivia: Those are going to be some great stories.
Ms. Mandy: I think so. I can imagine what you’re going to get back about that.
My question is: What one question might you like to ask of me, and of course you can. It can be about blow-jobs or not.
Ms. Olivia: That is perfect and we should have you back for an “Ask the Mistress” episode, which we do periodically. Posts on Twitter and on our blog will ask us questions, we save the questions and then do a round Robin. So if someone is emailing you those questions, save them and we will have you back. You are a super big hit on this podcast.
Mandy, thank you so much for joining us.
Ms. Mandy: Thank you for having me. Thank you both. It was amazing and so much fun. I had a blast.
Ms. Olivia: Now remember, folks. Give our podcast some love. We’re on Spotify, Apple, Amazon, and all the podcast outlets. Subscribe, like, and leave a review. The transcripts are slowly being posted, but past episodes are here on our blog, The Weekly Hot Spot.
Now, rewind this. Go back to the very beginning when we were talking about how we personally give a blowjob. Remember to pull over if you’re driving. Lube up and enjoy.
Thanks for listening. Bye!
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