When you think of ways to enhance your sex life – do you think of vibrators, dildos and butt plugs? Now, imagine all that AND a way for your Mistress to control everything? That control (for your pleasure and ours) is one of the reasons why we often tell you to get remote controlled sex toys! In this episode of podcast, you can read the transcript here and/or listen along as we talk about Remote Controlled Sex Toys We Love That You Need.
Ms. Olivia: Welcome to The Weekly Hot Spot: kink conversation, BDSM advice and insight from the worlds of distance domination and phone sex. I’m Mistress Olivia here with Ms. Erika and our friend Ms. Hunter.
Ms. Erika: Welcome back, Hunter.
Ms. Hunter: Thank you. I’m happy to be here with you ladies.
Ms. Olivia: I was looking forward to this podcast knowing that you would be here on the day we talk about sex toys that we love. Now the subject is wide and varied. I mean it’s just encompassing so many options from do-it-yourself to dildos and sexual aids to the wide variety of toys.
Today we’re just going to focus on remote-controlled sex toys in particular.
Hunter, now I may know the answer but I know our listeners might not. Do you like using remote controlled sex toys? I absolutely love them.
Ms. Hunter: I was trying not to. I have too much of an evil laugh there because that’s the thing I like about using them is kind of being a little bit evil, right? Where they least expect it, turning it up to higher, turning it down, turning it off and making them beg. So yes, I absolutely love that. Long answer to a short question.
Ms. Olivia: Remote controlled sex toys are perfect for Distance Domination and Dominance and submission. Erika and I often talk about our love of the Lovense Hush, the vibrating butt plug.
Ms. Hunter: Oh I love that so much.
The Lovense brand of remote controlled sex toys
Ms. Olivia: Getting someone into subspace and then beginning to use that vibrating butt plug and being able to coordinate the intensity of the vibration with what you’re talking about. And that is so much fun. So Erika, you inspired this topic because you noticed something on the Lovense website. What did you see?
Ms. Erika: Well, Lovense is growing by leaps and bounds and if you’re familiar with the brand of Lovense and you haven’t been to their site recently, you need to go back. I found that they just added a toy called Gravity. It is a vibrating and thrusting dildo! You’re able to suction the dildo to something and it becomes an all in one freaking toy that you can use alone because you can hook up to the app.
I got so excited the first day I kind of tweeted it out and I had a client go buy it and we played with it the other day. It is fabulous.
Now with that said, Lovense does say it’s not for anal use. They do that, I’m sure, because of liability. I told the client that. I said, please take it slow. Let’s walk through it. He said it worked perfectly.
It’s no different than their fuck machine or using a lady’s strap on. So just be careful and have a lot of fun. I know I did.
Ms. Hunter: I just pulled it up because I had not heard about it. So now I’m super excited about it too. Mm-hmm.
Ms. Olivia: We should do a ringtone of all three of our voices saying vibrating and thrusting. Because Erica, when you said that, I thought, well fuck me with that. All right.
Okay. So I think all three of us. So Erika, you say it again, then Hunter, you say it, and then I’ll say it.
We’ll do one, two, three.
Idea for a Femdom Mistress ringtone
Vibrating and thrusting.
Vibrating and thrusting.
Vibrating and thru-uh-uh-uh-sting.
Ms. Olivia: We should totally do that on like a ringtone, right?
Could you imagine? It would be like, oh, that’s my Mistress calling.
She’s telling me to insert the Lovense Hush or the Lovense Gravity.
I am most familiar with Lovense. And everyone knows that I kind of don’t like learning new tech. I will, but Hunter, you have experience with other adult toys that use long distance. So tell us a little bit about that.
Lovense versus WeVibe sex toys
Ms. Hunter: Okay. So one of the ones that I use a lot along with Lovense is the WeVibe brand. They have pretty much everything. Well, I don’t know about the Gravity because I only just now found out about that one, but all of their toys are, there’s a comparable one to Lovense.
WeVibe will use what they call the WeConnect app. Whereas Lovense, you, the person who’s controlling it, can control it on the computer or on an app. The WeVibe only has an app. So if there are some ladies who don’t have access to having the app, they love the Lovence because they don’t have to mess with getting an app. That’s the main difference I see between the two.
I also have a couple of clients that I’ve used the Cellmate Chastity device with, which is fun. And then I love, love, love using the E-STEM, the remote control, E-STEM Connect. And that to me is really my favorite.
Ms. Olivia: Now Hunter, I’m glad that you brought up the Cellmate Chastity device because I’m currently in negotiations with a pet to purchase a Chastity device. And you brought that to my attention.
How is the Cellmate Chastity device operated? Is that also a web-based interface or is that completely by an app on my side?
Ms. Hunter: Unfortunately, on your side, it is still just an app, just like WeConnect. You can’t do it on the computer.
Ms. Olivia: Good to know. Thank you so much.
Ms. Erika: And the E-STIM, I don’t know if it’s the same brand, but I’ve used E-STIMulators with a web browser option as well.
Speaking of E-STIM, Wellspanked says that he hasn’t played too much with E-STIM, but he says he’s intrigued. Wellspanked says: “I have a TENS unit and I have experimented. It is stimulating.” He goes on to say that he has not achieved edging or a hands-free orgasm with it but he says he’s open to trying more.
Remote controlled E-Stim for as punishment or sexy, kinky fun
Ms. Erika: Wellspanked also said: “I also see how it can certainly be used as punishment, especially if it can be remote controlled. To both of you, would that be punishment, funishment, or a little bit of both?
Ms. Hunter: Well, it could always start off as FUNishment. And if the pet isn’t good or doesn’t behave himself then these controls can go absolutely to punishment level right quick and in a hurry.
Sissy training using remote controlled chastity
Ms. Olivia: And don’t you forget it. Speaking of punishment and funishment, let’s talk about sissy training. The Cellmate that Hunter mentioned, is perfect for remote control, key holding, and chastity training.
more sissy training
Ms. Olivia: Do either of you use other remote controlled fuck toys for sissy training?
Ms. Erika: Well, for sissy training, the remote control toys, absolutely. Actually, Hunter and I both have a package in our store where you can buy the package.
We can arrange for a certain time and sissy can be told to, let’s say for example, I’m doing your sissy maid training. You are instructed maybe in a quick session to go ahead and get dressed, put in your little butt plug or your little vibrating clitty ring, and then go about your duties, doing dishes, washing the floor, and then Mistress, whenever she wants, fucks with you and keeps you in line, long distance, without any contact. And that’s the arrangement.
So absolutely it’s perfect for sissy training because it’s kind of emulating exactly what I would do with you if you’re my in-person sissy,I would absolutely torment you all day long like that. So you’re welcome.
Ms. Hunter: And I’m going to just say what Erika said. I do that too. And I love it for that reason.
And, whether it’s sissies or not, I feel like it’s a fun thing to do when they are not even on a call, because once you’ve arranged for a timeframe, they don’t ever know when you’re really going to turn it up. So they could be doing something where somebody’s around even and you turn it up and they have to be quiet about it. So I agree. It is great for sissies, but I think I like it just for all of those reasons.
Ms. Olivia: I like this and you both mentioned that it’s great to have sort of that threat and that novelty of not knowing, like anything could happen at any point in time. Ooh, what is Mistress thinking, right? That’s tons of fun.
Ms. Hunter: It is. Absolutely. You probably wouldn’t want to go get your groceries while you were wearing one.
Ms. Olivia: Or maybe you do! Actually, I think that would be a lot of fun in the grocery store. For example, and I’ve done this before, I’ll send people shopping and go with them while they’re shopping. So they’re on a call for going shopping and I’ll be directing things like, okay, go over to the cucumbers. What’s the largest one? And then make them say out loud, “Mistress, here is a cucumber that is six inches. Yes, Mistress, it’s nice and thick.”
Lube and sex toys
Ms. Olivia: Okay, so I’m compelled every time we talk about sex toys, we’ve got to do this PSA for water-based lube because it is perfect for sex toys. It is safe.
Now everything has pros and cons, right? Water-based lube is safe for your sex toys, but it can dry up quickly. So you have to reapply it, reapply it, and reapply it. Erika, you’ve got a tip for this, right?
Ms. Erika: Yes, absolutely. Water-based lubes are also good if you’re going to experiment with tasting pre-cum and stuff because the water-based lubes are generally safe to taste, not ingest, but just to taste. But if your water-based lube is drying out and you feel the need to keep reapplying, just use a few drops of water. You can have a cup nearby or reuse the old lube bottle and just a few little drops will invigorate it.
You can even incorporate some sexy things. For example, I’ve actually taken a sip of water, warmed it in my mouth and then trickled it down on the toy and masturbated before I used it on the person.
Ms. Hunter: Wow, that’s fantastic.
Oil-based lube and sex toys
Ms. Olivia: Let’s talk about oil-based lubes. Oh, careful, careful. They are thicker, more long lasting. I love oil-based lubes, especially because they sound amazing. They do that sound of squish, squish, squish. I’m a very sound oriented person. I love that sound.
But remember, oil-based lubes can’t be used with latex. And that includes condoms because duh, it’s latex condoms. So if you have an anal toy, for example, like the Gravity and you put a condom on it, be aware of that. You don’t want to use an oil-based lube.
Oh also I need to mention silicone-based lube. They are super slick – nice and slippery. It’s amazing. But, if you have a silicone sex toy, do not use silicone-based lube because it will, I don’t know, end up with a twilight zone kind of melting. So your sex toy just kind of melts. It ruins them in a bad way.
Ms Hunter: Absolutely. So, you know, I suggest that you have some of all on hand. So if you have a glass dildo, for instance, a silicone lube would work well with that. I always suggest they have a little bit of everything on hand just in case you need it. It’s not that expensive and it’s going to give you lots and lots of pleasure.
Ms. Olivia: I highly recommend using a glass dildo. I love glass dildos. You can heat them up. You can cool them down. I mean, they’re just great and it doesn’t matter what lube you use. I personally love olive oil and coconut oil. That’s my favorite, coconut oil. And let’s face it. It makes your dick taste like a snack!
Ms. Erika: Yeah, exactly. (
Ms. Olivia: If you, if you are with someone of Italian heritage, then I’m not sure you’re allowed to use the coconut oil. I think you have to use olive oil in solidarity. LOL
Ms. Erika: Probably so. The important thing that I think all of us want to communicate is, listen, sex toys are fun. Whether they’re something simple like a glass dildo or something elaborate, like the Lovence fuck machine.
Remote controlled fuck machine
Ms. Olivia: That Lovense fuck machine is amazing. I know of one person with a remote controlled fuck machine. And against my advice, he did not get Lovence.
Yes, the Lovence one is expensive. I want to say it’s like six or $700. So he saved 50 bucks getting a different brand of fuck machine and the remote controlled app does not work. So he has to control it himself.
Ms. Erika: I think everybody should always follow the Mistress’s orders.
Ms. Olivia: Yeah. Or even our suggestions, which are couched as suggestions, but let’s face it, are a fucking order. Hello? We’re Femdom Mistresses, that might have sounded like a suggestion but it was actually an order!
Vibrating cock rings
Ms. Erika: And, just like you said, Olivia, it’s important to realize that sex toys are part of your fun sex life. Let’s talk about cock rings because they’re dual purpose, not only they’re a good toy but they actually hold some health benefits for those with ED. There are remote controlled cock rings or cock selves. Again, check out the Lovense website, there are a lot of options.
Get in touch
Ms. Olivia:
Twitter X: @MistressOlivia1
Personal blog: Experienced Mistress
Ms. Erika:
Twitter X: ErikaEnchantrix.
Personal blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy.
Ms. Hunter:
Twitter X: @EmpressHunter
Personal blog: Intelligent Fantasies
Final thoughts and/or questions from The Weekly Hot Spot podcast listeners
Ms. Olivia: Pretend you’re a sex toy designer. What do you want to see, feel, and experience? Don’t pay any attention to reality. For example, you might say, I want a sex toy that will make me feel like I’m suspended in jello with a suction cup on just the head of my dick while my balls are being stretched down to my knees. Reality doesn’t matter. What do you want to see, feel, and experience in a sex toy?
Ms. Erika: Wow. That’s a question. I want to know if our listeners have ever considered giving up full control to a Mistress via one of these delicious toys and if so, where are you at?
Ms. Hunter: Oh, what a great question. And all of the followups to that. Why did you want to do it? Is it for your Mistress? Is it for you? What was your experience? I love hearing about what other people’s experiences are with all of these things. This is one of the reasons why all of us do what we do.
Who do you talk with about your kinky desires?
Ms. Olivia: Well, for me, it’s because I’m fucking nosy and I can’t actually sit around, I don’t know, playing Yahtzee with friends and go, so have you ever thought about anal?
Ms. Hunter: Well, you could. It may not go over very well, but you could.
Ms. Olivia: There are so many fun things like that, that you can’t necessarily share.
Ms. Hunter: You know, I’ve had so many stories and things that pop into my mind, Who am I going to tell? Am I going to just, you know, say kinky stuff with my vanilla friends? Yeah, no. Knowing all of us, we might actually blurt that out in an inappropriate kind of setting. That’s my worst fear, to be honest.
Ms. Olivia: Well, Hunter, that’s like, that’s like when you brought to the Mistress meeting. Remember when you brought that gigantic suction dildo with you and you completely forgot about it and put it in your carry on luggage?
Ms. Hunter: The TSA agent was like holding it up. And that was cute because he was an older man and he was holding it up and then he realized what it was. And he, as soon as he did, he dropped his hand and he put it back in there and zipped it all up. And he said, we all have our little secrets. It’s okay.
I said, “I’m so sorry ” when he said that. So yeah. Oh and this happened when I hadn’t done this for very long then so I wasn’t as bold as I might be. I think If it were to happen now, I would be like, Hey everybody, look at this!
Ms. Olivia: We’ve come to the end of our time and all three of us are going to go and enjoy our remote controlled sex toys!
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